This morning I stopped at my local drugstore to purchase a wedding card for my daughter and her partner who will marry next week. I worried that all the cards available would depict a bride and groom in the art or the words. I was pleasantly surprised to find many options without any figures–male or female–and sentiments that expressed what I feel. Happiness and hope as they begin this journey together.
Thank you, Hallmark Cards!
The proud mother of one of the brides
Today is our 42nd anniversary. Here is what we looked like way back then. I’m happy that loving couples in all 50 states can now share in all the hopes and dreams that we have. Love is love.
Whew! Just finished this giant of a book this morning on the elliptical. It’s the first in the Century Trilogy by Ken Follett. It does an excellent job of tracing the roots of present day issues to what was going on one hundred years ago, before, during and just after WWI. The lives of members of five families are tangled and woven throughout the book and across the world.
There are coal mines, manor houses, spies, battlefields, the highest tiers of government, the poorest neighborhoods and yes, romance. Lots of intrigue and backroom dealing.
Follett also describes the roots of feminism and the labor movement in Great Britain. During the war, women took over men’s jobs but were paid less for the same work. Sound familiar? When the vote was finally granted to women, it was only to women over thirty who were householders, the most conservative women.
I feel like I know you already. We’ve had coffee together, read the same books, and grieved the loss of a loved one. Or an election. We’ve gained and lost weight. We’ve celebrated and commiserated. We’ve laughed over our struggles with aging. We’ve waxed nostalgic. We’ve made plans for the future. We’ve gotten a little drunk. Together.
Over the years, I’ve learned a few things about us.
- We believe in the inherent value and potential of every human being.
- We believe in the freedom of choice in all personal matters, including whether and when to have a baby or whom to marry. We married for love and believe others should be allowed to do so.
- We believe that knowledge is power and that knowing the facts helps us make better decisions for ourselves and our world.
- We believe in the freedom of (and from) religion as long as others believe in ours.
- We believe that most people are good and trying the best they can. Everyone is fighting a battle of some kind, some are just more visible.
- We recycle.
- We believe in spreading kindness, even if we get a little judge-y in our heads sometimes.
- We believe trolls live under bridges and should stay there. We know life is short and that bullies and blowhards are simply not worth our time.
Please consider this an invitation as well as a note of gratitude. Stop by when you can. No need to call first. The coffee’s always hot. I’ll save you a seat by the window.