We’re in renovation mode here (carpet, vinyl, granite counters, paint…) and then moving. Seventeen days and counting! There simply isn’t enough of my modest brain power left over for writing. Nonetheless, I thought this was worth sharing. How to Become a Happier Person. I mean, who doesn’t want to be happier?
Okay. You blew it. Ate too many nachos, drank too many margaritas. Or somehow that open bag of Oreos–or that pint of rocky road–just disappeared. Or you were forced to eat the leftover pizza for lunch because you didn’t get to the supermarket for salad ingredients. Your healthy eating plan is blown for the week. You scold yourself and promise you’ll start again next Monday. Days away from now. We’ve all done it, but I still have to ask, “How’s that working for you?” I thought so. It’s that perfectionist, “all or nothing” pattern of thinking that probably landed us at this spot.
How many nights have we gone to bed beating ourselves up with woulda, coulda, shoulda? How many days, weeks, months have we wasted waiting the next fresh start? How many moments?
Many times it’s not what happens to us, but how we respond that sets the pattern. Success just means getting up once oftener than you fall down.
You can have a clean slate any time you want. So, the next time you eat or drink more than you intended—and let’s face it, honey, it will happen—forgive yourself and figure out what went wrong. Where did that decision start? Did you let yourself get too hungry? Did you neglect to plan ahead? Did you let a bad day set the stage for overdosing on comfort food? Learn what trips you up and who–besides Ben and Jerry, that is–can comfort you when you are sad or angry or frustrated. Then make your very next decision a good one. Here are a few to consider:
- Drink more water. Add lemon or cucumber slices to make it feel and taste special.
- Be sure your next meal or snack a healthy one.
- Take a walk.
- Write in your journal about what set you off.
- Add a few more minutes at the gym.
- Call a supportive friend.
- Plan a few menus, make a shopping list and head to the market.